Pornography Addiction Therapy | Pasadena, CA and Online

Shame keeps the cycle running

I work with people who are struggling with compulsive pornography use, offering a space free from judgment where we can gently explore what's beneath the pattern and support healing, self compassion, and deeper connection.

Here's what most people in this struggle already know: the crash of shame after acting out doesn't stop the behavior. It fuels it. Compulsive use is rarely about sex. It's usually about regulation: a fast, reliable way to escape stress, loneliness, or feelings you were never taught to handle. In a space where you can finally be completely honest without being judged or lectured, recovery actually starts.

This work is for you if

You've tried to quit or cut back repeatedly and it doesn't stick

Use has escalated in time, intensity, or content that troubles you

It's affecting your relationship, intimacy, or how you see yourself

You grew up in purity culture and are tangled in cycles of bingeing and shame

Your partner discovered your use and your relationship is in crisis

You feel like two different people and you're exhausted by the hiding

How we work on this together

We start with the function, not the failure: what the behavior does for you, when the urges hit, and what your nervous system is reaching for. From there we build real regulation skills, address the trauma and attachment wounds underneath, and rebuild integrity between who you are in private and who you are in the world. If your relationship has been affected, I can also support disclosure and repair through couples work around betrayal.

Many men also benefit from the Men's Recovery Group, where accountability comes with brotherhood instead of shame.

Pornography addiction

Shame keeps the cycle running

This work is for you if

How we work on this together

Honesty is the first rep